Mirroring and Healing
Sometimes we get caught up in emotions that are deeply hidden without knowing exactly why. We feel blocked, as if something is preventing us from living freely. I want to share a personal story, not only because it helped me go a little deeper, but also to inspire others who recognize themselves in it.
A while ago, I realized that I had new blockages on. These had nothing to do with my relationship but everything to do with my past. It felt like my body wanted to tell me something, but I couldn't place it directly. Later, I discovered that something had happened on an energetic level that felt like abuse. It was as if my soul had stored it, while my conscious mind had never fully understood it.
This discovery was already intense, I had never thought deeply about it, my father sometimes did things that could not stand the light of day afterwards... but I didn't know better but I spoke about it lightly as if it meant nothing. What happened next brought me an even greater lesson. One day, I felt my husband's energy, and it affected me differently than usual, it was a kind of discussion that I found unpleasant. It felt awkward. The subject of my blockages came up again, and he said something that touched me deeply:
“If I had behaved to our children like your father behaved to you, you would probably have shown me the door right away.”
Those words felt like a slap. My father's behavior had never completely crossed the line, but it was enough to damage my trust and safety. That's when I saw it: my husband held up a mirror to me.
I had to swallow. My first inclination was to push the emotion away, but something inside me told me to stay. I decided to feel it. Sadness, discomfort, and maybe even anger surfaced, but I knew it was necessary. These were emotions that I had hidden away for years. By letting them in, I began to understand something important: this blockade needed my attention.
What helped me was that I no longer saw my emotions as weakness. They were a signal that my body and soul wanted to tell me something. Mirroring, no matter how painful, is a powerful tool. It forces you to look at what's going on inside you, even if it's uncomfortable.
Afterwards, I was grateful to him. His words helped me heal a bit of my past and gave me the opportunity to connect more with myself. Releasing blockages is not easy, but acknowledging and allowing them creates space for growth and freedom. I am also now intensely grateful for my past because they allow me to learn my life's lessons, allowing me to fully empower me, and that feels intense.
How can you deal with this?
If you recognize yourself in my story, I want to share a few tips that helped me:
- Allow yourself to feel.
Often we want to avoid pain or discomfort, but it is precisely by feeling it that you can let go. Give yourself time and space to let in emotions. - See mirroring as an opportunity.
People around you can confront you, sometimes in a way that feels painful. Instead of defending yourself, look at what those words touch in you. It can be an indication of what needs attention. - Write down your feelings.
Writing down your thoughts and emotions can help you understand them. It makes it tangible and helps you discover patterns. - Get help if you need it.
If the emotions are too overwhelming, don't be afraid to get professional help. Therapy or coaching can guide you in this process. - Be gentle with yourself.
Releasing blockages takes time. Be patient and treat yourself with the same love and compassion you would give to a close friend.
You are not alone
Blockages are not a weakness; they are an invitation to listen to yourself. Maybe you recognize yourself in my story, or maybe it evokes something else in you. Anyway, know that you are not alone and that growth is possible — step by step, at your own pace.
If this affects you, feel free to share your experience or question in the comments. Together, we can grow and support each other.