When you become aware of how important the inner child is to yourself, what it means, and how you can make it work for yourself in a positive way, no matter how old you are, you have to feel a difference, it can give you a lot of inner peace. Which should be the most important thing for yourself... because inner peace is your Ki... and not your status. Status is also valuable, but it is very relative if you have no inner peace.
We all carry an inner child with us, who carries with us the memories of our childhood, both the beautiful and the painful moments. For some of us, that inner child suffered deep wounds during the early years. These wounds can result in traumas that affect our adult lives. Our inner child represents the feelings, desires, and needs we had as children. If our childish self has experienced painful or traumatic experiences, this can lead to emotional scarring. This traumatized child in ourselves can manifest as anxiety, depression, uncertainty, anger, or other emotional issues. The first step in healing the traumatized child in ourselves is acknowledgment and acceptance. We need to recognize that we have injured parts of ourselves and that this is completely normal.
It's important to take our inner child's emotions and experiences seriously and not minimize them. If you think about this, it's not surprising, if you experience something as a child that stops you from being so open-minded and turned inside yourself with an annoying, hurtful, or humiliating remark, you can already lose a part of yourself. Let alone if you've experienced something threatening, you won't just get to that child (yourself), that's hard work, but you'll see that you'll get a little further every time you don't give up. But why give up, it's about yourself!
Every time you make contact (with your inner child), you already process pieces, although you may not fully understand it yet, but that will come.
Self-compassion is essential to the healing process. We need to give ourselves the same love and care that we would give to an injured child. This includes learning to let go of self-condemnation and severity. The inner child needs understanding and support, just like we do. Sometimes the traumatized child's wounds are too deep to heal alone. In such cases, professional help, such as therapy, can be very valuable. A therapist can help explore and understand the traumatic experiences of the past and can provide guidance in dealing with the emotions that come with them. But we are also extremely capable of doing this ourselves, trust yourself. It's important to take regular time for self-care and self-reflection. This allows us to connect with our inner child and understand what needs there are.
This can range from quiet moments of meditation or mindfulness exercises to practicing creative expression, such as writing, painting, or dancing.
Sometimes an important part of healing is being able to forgiven of those who have hurt us in the past. Forgiveness is not the same as approving their behavior, but rather releasing the burden of anger and resentment that holds us back. This has unprecedented power; being able to truly forgive is a profound form of healing. It can help us move forward.
The traumatized child in ourselves can have a powerful influence on our adult lives. Understanding and healing these inner wounds is a worthwhile journey to self-discovery and healing. It takes love, patience, and a willingness to face the painful parts of ourselves. But ultimately, it can lead to greater self-acceptance, self-love, and resilience. So let's take care of the traumatized child in ourselves, because it deserves healing and happiness just like we do.
If you find it difficult to do this, I will give you an example of how to do this. Find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed, don't be afraid, you're talking to yourself from the past. Sit somewhere where you can focus and feel comfortable. This can be a quiet room or even outside in nature. Relax, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths to unwind. This helps you get in touch with your inner feelings and emotions. Visualize your inner child, imagine an image of yourself as a child, somewhere between the ages where you may have experienced traumatic experiences. Try to imagine this child in as much detail as possible: what something looked like, what they were wearing, their facial expression, etc.
Talk to your inner child in your mind. For example, “I'm here to take care of you,” or “I understand you've been hurt, and I want to help you.” Follow your gut. Be open to the response of your inner child. This can be in the form of thoughts, images, or emotions that come to mind. It's important to listen to what this part of yourself has to say with empathy and understanding. It may take a while to establish a dialogue with your inner child, and you may need to do this process repeatedly to dig deeper and understand what's going on. After the dialogue, it can be useful to write down your experiences in a journal. This helps you keep the insights and plan any steps for further healing and self-care.
Talking to your inner child is a therapeutic exercise that can contribute to emotional healing and personal growth. It's important to be patient and caring with yourself as you go through this process because it can evoke profound emotions and memories. Start by acknowledging the existence of your traumatized inner child. Accept that it's part of who you are and that it's entitled to care and healing. This is an important step. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding as you would treat an injured child. Let go of self-condemnation and self-criticism.
Practice self-compassion and give yourself the love and support you need. Take regular time to look deep into yourself. This helps you better understand your emotions and experiences. Learn emotional regulation techniques so you can better deal with emotional outbursts or flashbacks. This may include breathing exercises, mindfulness, and grounding techniques.
Pay attention to your own needs. Take time to relax, exercise, a healthy diet, and get enough sleep. Take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. Creative activities like writing, drawing, painting, making music, or dancing can help express pent-up emotions and explore your inner world. Actually, this is a fun thing, and at the same time, you can let go of things that are difficult for you to reach. Realize that healing is a long process. Be patient and understand that there will be ups and downs. Allow yourself to grow and evolve.
Helping the traumatized child in yourself is an act of self-love and self-respect.It's an investment in your wellbeing and ability to live a healthier, happier life. Give yourself permission to heal and grow, because you deserve it.