“Coping” is a method that people use to deal with stress, emotional pain, or difficult situations. While coping can be helpful in dealing with stress in the short term, in some cases they can work incorrectly or counteract if used to avoid or fail to address problems. An example of this is when someone is addicted to drugs, alcohol, or another substance, which prevents them from feeling or getting closer to themselves. I personally believe not that addiction is an illness or a choice but rather a way for someone to solve something. However, the underlying traumas are often so ingrained that people no longer seem to have the ability to solve problems but only want to escape from emotional stress, loneliness, or even create a disconnection from themselves. The fact remains that you're not making it better for yourself, only worse.
Another wrong way of dealing with problems is to suppress emotions instead of acknowledging and dealing with them. Ignoring or suppressing feelings can lead to emotional build-up of problems and can ultimately lead to psychological problems.
”Running away from your problems stops when you turn around and become aware”
To deal more effectively with stress and difficult situations, it's important to use positive coping strategies. This can be several points. Actively addressing problems, seeking social support, expressing emotions, developing healthy lifestyle habits, and learning stress management techniques include. It's also important to seek professional help if necessary to address deeper issues.
Coping refers to alternative strategies that people seek to deal with stress, challenges, and emotional turmoil. It can range from simple daily stressors to serious life-changing events such as loss of a loved one, illness, or work-related stress. Coping can be a substitute goal of delaying the situation for you with the thought of giving yourself more time to come up with a solution. This may be fine on its own, but be aware that if you don't address the underlying problem, your coping strategies will usually end in a relapse. This doesn't mean that's a bad thing either, but it also depends a bit on how strong you are at that moment and how that relapse comes to you, because that could worsen the situation.
People use different coping strategies, and these can be divided into two broad categories: problem-focused coping and emotion-focused coping.
Problem-focused coping:
These strategies focus on actively addressing the problem or stressor. This can include identifying possible solutions, taking steps to resolve the problem, and planning actions.
Examples of problem-focused coping include seeking information, setting goals, developing an action plan, and confronting the stressor.
Emotion-focused coping:
These strategies focus on managing emotional responses to stress and relieving emotional pain. This can include seeking social support, relaxation techniques, and positive reappraisal of the situation.
Examples of emotion-focused coping include meditation, breathing exercises, talking to friends or a therapist, and accepting emotions without judgment.
It's important to note that the effectiveness of coping strategies depends on the specific situation. Sometimes problem-focused coping is the most appropriate approach, while in other cases emotion-focused coping may be more effective. If you decide to really address your problem, make sure you make a good deal with yourself and also hold yourself accountable not to give up, because that's what you've learned so far. It is now time to take responsibility for your own life, your own choices, so that you can be proud of them. After all, you can't keep blaming the world or other people for your life, you'll create that your life will eventually fly by yourself.
The ability to deal effectively with stress can be learned and developed. Here are some steps you can take to improve your coping skills:
- Start by identifying your current coping strategies. What do you do when faced with stress? How do you respond to challenges? Self-awareness is the first step in understanding where to improve.
- Learn new techniques: If you find yourself primarily using one way, try learning other ways. This may include developing new skills, such as self-exploration and self-reflection. Have faith in yourself when you don't have it. Then ask yourself real questions. Why don't I feel worthy? Try to identify specific reasons for your sense of lack of self-esteem. Is there a specific event or experience that caused these feelings?
- Are my self-worth beliefs based on facts? Ask yourself if your negative beliefs about yourself are true, or if they are based on prejudice, false assumptions, or fear.
- What are my strengths and qualities? List your positive attributes, skills, and achievements. Remind yourself that you have a lot to offer.
- What negative thoughts or beliefs are bothering me? Identify specific negative thoughts or beliefs that undermine your self-confidence and ask yourself why you have them.
- Are these self-esteem consistent in my life, or are there times when I do feel worthy? Investigate whether your self-image varies in different situations. Are there times when you feel more confident? and answer them honestly, this can have a positive impact on your mental well-being.
- Develop resilience: Resilience is the ability to weather adversity and come out of the experience stronger. Developing resilience can help you deal better with stress and grow in difficult times.
Falling back into a habit or addiction can be a challenging and discouraging situation, and it often highlights that the coping strategies used to deal with stress or problems were not the pitfall but did not fully address the underlying problem. Don't punish yourself too harshly for this. You do your best, you fall and you get up again. The goal is not to fail intentionally, but to understand that failure is a natural part of the journey to success. It's how you deal with failure, learn from them, and get back on your feet that is the key to success.”